In our cover
story for Squash Player 2020 Issue 2, Richard Eaton pays tribute to
Egypt’s Raneem el Welily after her shock retirement whilst at the top of
the women’s game.
One tribute among the many which followed the sudden and unexpected
retirement of Raneem el Welily was less obvious but more powerful than
the others.
Two tributes had resonance outside squash. Some of them celebrated an
unusual tapestry of talents. But Welily’s greatest achievement eluded
all the record books.
Nicol David is the most successful and most feted woman player of the
modern era; Susan Devoy remains perhaps its best player; Heather McKay’s
unbeaten sequence in the amateur era made her a legend by comparison
with champions in any sport. But only Raneem el Welily became the queen
of hearts.
Most often she is described as the only Arab woman in any sport to
become a world number one, and hopefully this brings better
opportunities for women in many walks of life throughout the Middle
East. Welily also gets a mention in the Guinness Book of Records,
alongside husband Tarek Momen, as the only married couple to become
world champions in the same sport.
But it was the way Welily gained the affection of thousands of people
all over the world which was her really special achievement.
True, she also took part in Egypt’s four world team titles, lifting the
morale of a beleaguered nation confronted by harrowing obstacles. The
most recent of these successes was achieved by a quartet – Welily, Nour el Sherbini,
Nouran Gohar and Nour el Tayeb – which was perhaps the strongest women’s
team ever.
For some people the pleasure in these achievements was tinged with
dismay that Welily could contemplate retirement while still the world
number one. After all, she had maintained that eye-catching status for
19 consecutive months until the sudden sad farewell.
The wrench however revealed Welily as by far the most popular player on
tour. How do we know? In many different ways. To begin with, through the
Spirit of Squash, an accolade she won for the last four years in
succession.
Awarded to a player on tour best demonstrating true sportsmanship, it is
decided by votes from fellow players, and it showed what they thought
made Welily so special.
The sharpest insight came from Rachael Grinham, a former world number
one and extremely cognisant of competitive psychology. “Not many players
win all the titles and still have the utmost respect of literally all
their peers,” she observed.
Though Welily is one of the most talented players to pick up a racket,
with a special ability to perceive many shot-making choices in different
situations, her qualities are not quite unique. Her attitude to her
fellow players, however, is.
Welily tries to do what she believes is right, even when it is
inconvenient or difficult, which it often is. “If I do the right thing,
maybe others will say, ‘hey, I want to do the right thing too’,” she
says. “As cheesy as it sounds, if you want to improve the world, just
improve yourself.” She added: “You don’t change the world by becoming
world champion.”
Her humble empathy hooked fans and spectators all over the world who
warmed to Welily’s capacity for self-criticism. They heard her admit
that sometimes she failed when she had hoped to succeed, and felt they
had something in common with her.
Some will recall with sympathy the extraordinary 2014 world final in
which Welily held four match points against David, and still couldn’t
quite make it. But they never saw how creatively she dealt with the
bitterness.
Her popularity was also aided by public admissions of shortcomings in
temperament, and even by her confession that on a couple of occasions
she had cheated. She had faults and was prepared for people to know it.
There may have been empathy too with her statement – superficially
surprising - that squash was only a small thing in her
life. Contributing to the human condition was far more important.
She has a particular attention to detail. Each shot and every decision
plays a part in defining who she is, she claimed.
“You are always at a crossroads, choosing which way to go,” she said.
“But usually before a big decision I just sit down and think about
things. And whichever way I choose, I follow that to the end.”
Her biggest decisions, she said, are made last thing at night. “After
everyone has talked to me and after I’ve listened to everyone, and asked
for opinions, how I feel before I sleep is the most honest thing for
me,” she said.
Much of this is remarkable. It is rarely easy to pursue the highest
ideals while coping with the toughest competition in the world. But
people noticed Welily’s attempts to do this - succeeding with remarkable
frequency - and appreciated them.
Much is often revealed by the manner of someone’s parting, and Welily’s
retirement announcement generated fulsome responses. The mood was best
captured by her fellow top ten player Amanda Sobhy. “What an
unbelievable role model, player and person,” Sobhy wrote. “One of the
most skilled and exciting players, but also an absolute gem of a human
being and person.”
El Sherbini, though a perennial rival, described Welily simply as “like
a sister.” It was no facade.
Personal warmth flowed from another world number one, Mohamed ElShorbagy.
“I’ve known Raneem since I was 10, and she was always the most genuine
person,” he said. “She led the way for women’s squash in Egypt and was
always a great role model to all of us. We became world champions
together and that made it more special for me”.
Jenny Duncalf, the presenter, commentator and former world number two,
admitted: “Selfishly I am so gutted about Raneem retiring. For me she is
the best thing about women’s squash. Her talent, warmth, humour and
intelligence led her to be the most respected player on the tour.”
Some were taken aback by the timing of it all. Nick Matthew, three times
a world champion, tweeted: “Wow! This is truly a shock! World number
one and at the top of her game.”
Husband Tarek admitted it had created “a roller coaster of emotions” and
that it was “a bit sad witnessing the end of an era - but we take some
comfort in starting our own family. Goodbye legend. New beginnings.”
A
few people fastened on to those words and wondered if “new beginnings”
might refer to something which was already happening. Had the onset of a
new family actually begun?
Perhaps what most endeared Welily to ordinary people was being able to
relate to her struggles. Although her skills were often brilliant, her
mindset sometimes wasn’t.
It took time to supplement her multiple shot-making options with better
decision-making. She had to work long and hard at reducing tension and
clearing her mind. It took time before she came to realise that if her
body was tense, it might indicate that it came from her mind. She had to
learn to perceive physiotherapy as not just about injury prevention but
as an insight into psychology too.
She once memorably confided how her mind was divided. “I’ve always said
there are three of us - there’s me, then there’s Raneem, and also
myself,” she said, seriously but tinged with humour.
“Sometimes we fight - and sometimes we are at peace,” she added. It was
a light-hearted view of the mental divisions that may be in many of us.
For those wary of psychoanalysis, there were more day-to-day
descriptions. “I have always been tense,” she acknowledged. “The
pressure has got to me more than once. But I became happy to achieve
relaxation and enjoy moments on court more often.”
This was what happened at Manchester in 2017, when at last she won the
world title. At times she was indeed more relaxed, although quite why
that happened in this place at that time is unclear. “I thought if it
was not meant to be it was not going to be – and that’s why I was
relaxed,” she explained, revealing fatalism in her make-up.
But when age was mentioned she was different. She became critical that
it had taken so long - until aged 29 - to achieve some mastery over her
tension. “You look at the others,” she said, referring to Sherbini,
Tayeb, Gohar, “and they achieved mental stability quite early”.
But self-knowledge brought a deeper perspective. “It’s really about the
journey I’ve enjoyed, about growing, about people, and setting goals and
going after them,” she said.
“I am not materialistic. It’s more about the journey and life and
enjoying time, and making others happy, and being happy.”
It was actually Reeme Hansi who tweeted the appellation “Queen of
Hearts.” Raneem’s mum. Mums have been known to exaggerate the qualities
of their offspring. But not Reeme. She got this one right.
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